i sat with this a lot recently. i came to the conclusion that if i were to get pregnant again and decided to carry it to term, i probably wouldn't even tell the father. i know it's freakish, but (especially with Matt) i really see their "input" as meddling, and i don't want it. my decision to carry the child to term would be mine alone, and if i'm not including themin the decision making process, why should i burden them with the results?
i used to be just the opposite. i used to think that if i got pregnant, i would really want to have the other parent around for help. now i know better. i sincerely doubt their ability to be constructive, so why include them at all?
i've also gone from a number of years of despreately wanting a child to resigning myself to the fact that i probably killed my last chance for that (interesting term, my freudian slip is showing)... and i'm on so much birth control that the liklihood of my conceiving is incredibly minimal... so, it's a moo point. (you know, like when a cow has an opinion. it's useless. it's a moo point)
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i sat with this a lot recently. i came to the conclusion that if i were to get pregnant again and decided to carry it to term, i probably wouldn't even tell the father. i know it's freakish, but (especially with Matt) i really see their "input" as meddling, and i don't want it. my decision to carry the child to term would be mine alone, and if i'm not including themin the decision making process, why should i burden them with the results?
i used to be just the opposite. i used to think that if i got pregnant, i would really want to have the other parent around for help. now i know better. i sincerely doubt their ability to be constructive, so why include them at all?
i've also gone from a number of years of despreately wanting a child to resigning myself to the fact that i probably killed my last chance for that (interesting term, my freudian slip is showing)... and i'm on so much birth control that the liklihood of my conceiving is incredibly minimal... so, it's a moo point. (you know, like when a cow has an opinion. it's useless. it's a moo point)